Therefore, how does one achieve the sublime?
According to Janet Brito, Ph.D., a professional sex therapist and supervisor at the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health in Honolulu who is also a registered clinical psychologist, “69 is about shared enjoyment.” “Be curious and take your time.”

Since it requires coordination and the capacity to concentrate on making your partner feel good while simultaneously concentrating on how good he makes you feel and ALSO concentrating on how haphazardly long his second toe is, this is one of those sexual acts that can look better than they actually feel. The urge to cause the other to orgasm at the same time when there is so much going on is a great task, but it is not to suggest that simultaneous pleasure is not feasible or enjoyable.

However, if you prefer to be in charge, have your companion lie on their back as you approach from above, facing their feet. Then, in what must feel strange, she does a full vertical blowjob or cunnilingus. Your partner’s mouth should be able to access your genitalia. Change it up and allow your partner take the lead if you grow tired, but keep in mind that you lose some control if you do it (and that cock may hit your gag reflex unexpectedly).